Advanced Sexual Practice in Marriage: Skill, Depth, and Discerned Growth for Sexually Established Couples

Overview

Advanced Sexual Practice in Marriage (ASPM) is a high-end, long-term coaching program for married couples with an already strong and active sex life who want intentional growth rather than repair. It focuses on skill, depth, and discerned novelty within clear moral and relational boundaries.

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Most conversations about marital sex focus on problems: lack of desire, mismatched libido, pain, conflict, or breakdown. These conversations matter, and there are times when repair and support are essential. But they do not reflect the experience of every married couple.

Some couples enjoy a strong relationship, communicate well, and share an active, mutually satisfying sex life, yet still sense that something has flattened over time. Sex may still be good, even very good, but increasingly familiar. Patterns repeat. Novelty fades. Growth happens less by intention and more by inertia.

Advanced Sexual Practice in Marriage (ASPM) exists for couples in this space.

This program is not about fixing what is broken. It is about forming what is already strong.

Who ASPM Is Designed For

ASPM is designed for married couples who already have a stable and enjoyable sexual relationship and who want to invest intentionally in its continued growth.

This program is well suited for couples who:

• Are married and sexually established

• Share a trusting, communicative relationship

• Feel secure with one another emotionally and sexually

• Want refinement, depth, and carefully discerned novelty

• Have the time, privacy, and financial freedom to invest in long-term formation

ASPM is not a repair or crisis program. Couples seeking support for sexual pain, avoidance, betrayal, or persistent distress are encouraged to explore other coaching options.

View other Sexual Intimacy Coaching programs here.

Formation, Not Escalation

A common cultural assumption is that sexual growth requires escalation. If something works, the solution is assumed to be more intensity, fewer limits, or greater novelty. Over time, this approach often leads to pressure, dissatisfaction, or disconnection.

ASPM is built on a different premise.

Sexual growth in marriage is not primarily about doing more. It is about developing skill, attunement, and capacity. When couples understand their bodies more clearly, communicate more precisely, and approach novelty with discernment, intimacy deepens without becoming unstable.

Rather than chasing experiences, ASPM focuses on:

• Refining arousal and pleasure skills

• Understanding individual and shared sexual patterns

• Integrating novelty in ways that strengthen trust

• Developing flexibility and responsiveness over time

The aim is not escalation, but sustainability.

Guardrails That Support Depth

Because ASPM engages advanced aspects of marital sexuality, it operates within clear relational and ethical boundaries. These guardrails are not obstacles to growth. They are what allow growth to remain integrated and enduring.

ASPM is guided by the following principles:

• Sexual exploration remains exclusive to the marital relationship

• There is no secrecy between spouses

• Practices that undermine dignity or rely on humiliation are excluded

• Participation is always mutual and freely chosen

• Growth is never pursued for escalation alone

These boundaries protect trust, clarity, and long-term vitality. For couples who are ready for this level of work, they are typically experienced as stabilizing rather than restrictive.

Program Structure

ASPM is a long-term, high-touch coaching program that unfolds over several months. The structure allows time for assessment, alignment, skill development, and integration rather than rushing toward outcomes.

Early stages focus on shared understanding, sexual literacy, and readiness. Later stages allow couples to work intentionally on specific areas of growth, with space between sessions to practice, refine, and integrate what they are learning into their lived relationship.

This is not a weekend intensive or a quick upgrade. It is a curated process designed for couples who value depth over speed.

Investment

ASPM is offered as a long-term coaching program with two participation options.

Intake & Discernment

A required intake session allows for mutual fit and readiness assessment before committing to the program.

Intake: $500

ASPM – Luxury (12 sessions)

The full ASPM coaching program, including assessments and educational resources.

Investment:

• $9,600 prepay

• or 6 payments of $1,800

ASPM – Premium (12 sessions)

Includes everything in ASPM – Luxury, plus bespoke, high-end intimacy materials curated to the couple’s focus areas.

Investment:

• $13,200 prepay

• or 6 payments of $2,500

What Distinguishes ASPM

ASPM is not therapy.

It is not crisis intervention.

It is not general sex coaching.

This program is defined by:

• High discretion

• Clear moral and relational coherence

• Individualized guidance within a structured framework

• A focus on formation rather than performance

ASPM is designed for couples who are already strong and who want to grow intentionally rather than accidentally.

Frequently Asked Questions

• Is ASPM appropriate if we are experiencing sexual difficulties?

  ASPM is not designed for sexual repair or crisis support. Couples experiencing ongoing sexual difficulties are encouraged to explore other coaching options.

  View Sexual Intimacy Coaching programs here.

• Are both spouses required to participate?

  Yes. ASPM is a couples program. While individual sessions occur within the structure, the work itself is collaborative and integrated.

• Does ASPM involve “kinky” or unconventional sexual practices?

  ASPM does not exist to promote, police, or referee a couple’s sexual interests. Couples who pursue this program often already have a range of preferences or curiosities, which vary widely from marriage to marriage.

  The role of ASPM is to guide couples in discerning how to pursue their sexual interests in ways that are mutually desired, relationally integrated, and consistent with a Catholic moral framework. The focus is on formation and integration, not novelty for its own sake or boundary-pushing.

• Is ASPM consistent with Catholic moral teaching?

  Yes. ASPM operates within clear moral and relational boundaries and is designed to support marital intimacy in a manner consistent with Catholic teaching.

• Why is there a required intake session?

  The intake session allows for mutual discernment and readiness assessment. It ensures that ASPM is an appropriate fit before either party commits to a long-term process.

An Invitation to Intentional Growth

Sexual intimacy in marriage does not have to stagnate with time. With intention, skill, and discernment, it can continue to deepen and mature alongside the relationship itself.

ASPM is intentionally narrow in scope. It is not for every couple, and it is not meant to be. For those who recognize themselves in this description, the next step is a structured intake and discernment session.