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What to Do When Sex Feels Like a Chore in Marriage
If sex in your marriage feels like a chore, something is off, and it’s not something you have to accept. In this article, we break down why this happens and how to start changing it right away. You’ll learn why your pleasure, including orgasm, is essential to a healthy sex life and what practical steps you can take to rebuild enjoyment and connection. If you’re tired of going through the motions, this is where things start to change.
Can Catholic Spouses Try Different Sex Positions Other than Missionary?
Few questions about Catholic teaching on marriage are surrounded by as many jokes, rumors, and half-remembered medieval claims as the morality of sexual positions. Is missionary position uniquely “approved,” or can married couples licitly choose other forms of intercourse? This article provides an answer!
Intimacy When Your Wife Has Borderline Personality Disorder
A diagnosis of borderline personality disorder can bring both clarity and new challenges to a marriage, especially in the area of intimacy. Emotional intensity, fear of abandonment, and push–pull dynamics can make closeness feel unstable or confusing. This article helps couples understand these patterns and offers a grounded framework built on safety, stability, and structure. With the right approach and support, healthy and meaningful intimacy is still possible.
How to Initiate Sex in Marriage (Without Rejection or Awkwardness)
Struggling with awkward or rejected attempts to initiate sex? Most couples don’t have a desire problem, they have an initiation problem. This article breaks down the difference between verbal and nonverbal initiation, active and passive consent, and how to align with your spouse to reduce rejection. If you want a more natural and consistent sex life, it starts with how you initiate.
Another Renowned Moral Theologian on Sexual Acts Outside Intercourse
Periodically, we plan on dropping excerpts from highly esteemed traditional moral theologians on questions pertaining to marital chastity and sexual morality. Many of these are taken from our Compendium which you can access here. Today’s excerpt is from renowned moral theologian Benedict Merkelbach, O.P.
Intimacy When Your Husband Has Autism Spectrum Disorder
Intimacy in marriage can feel confusing and frustrating when your husband has autism spectrum disorder, especially when emotional cues and desire are easily missed. This article helps wives understand that these challenges are not about lack of love, but differences in perception and communication. With the right approach, including clear communication, sensory awareness, and structured intimacy, couples can build a deeply meaningful sexual relationship. If you feel stuck, know that growth is possible with the right tools and guidance.
Intimacy When ADHD Is Part of Your Marriage
When ADHD is part of a marriage, intimacy can feel inconsistent, intense, or confusing. What often appears to be a difference in libido is frequently tied to impulsivity, emotional regulation, and the need for stimulation. This can also contribute to patterns like pornography use or pressure within the relationship. With intentional structure, clear communication, and healthier coping, couples can build a deeply connected and fulfilling intimate life.
A Memorial Day Update from James
As Memorial Day approaches, James shares a candid update on the current state of the Apostolate for Marital Intimacy, including the real costs of sustaining faithful Catholic marriage ministry. This reflection discusses the challenges of balancing affordable resources, growing content demands, and the need for consistent financial and volunteer support. The post also explains upcoming shifts toward Patreon-supported content and how supporters can help strengthen the future of the apostolate through prayer, donations, coaching, or volunteering. Most of all, it is a message of gratitude for everyone helping build a stronger future for Catholic marriages.
Husbands: Stop Pretending Your Sex Life Is Fine
Most husbands know when something is off in their sex life, but choose to ignore it. This article challenges men to stop settling for a lukewarm marriage and take responsibility for the state of their intimacy. If your wife is disengaged or avoiding sex, that’s not something to dismiss, it’s something to lead through. You are called not just to be present in your marriage, but to actively pursue and love your wife well, including in the bedroom. If you’re ready to stop pretending and start leading, this is your wake-up call.
Can a Catholic Wife Pursue Breast Augmentation in Marriage?
A Catholic look at the morality of breast augmentation, weighing intention, medical need, beauty, marriage, modesty, and chastity through the lens of Catholic moral theology.
Intimacy When Your Spouse Is Depressed
When your spouse is clinically depressed, intimacy often shifts in ways that can feel confusing and personal, but it is not a rejection of you. Depression impacts desire, energy, and emotional connection, yet intimacy does not have to disappear. With intentional communication, gentle leadership, and a focus on your spouse’s experience, sexual intimacy can remain a source of connection and even support during this season. This article offers practical guidance for navigating these challenges while honoring both spouses’ needs.
Shower Sex: Making It Safer, Simpler, and More Enjoyable
Shower sex sounds exciting in theory, but many couples quickly discover that slippery surfaces, awkward angles, and unrealistic expectations can make it surprisingly difficult. This practical guide explores how to make shower intimacy safer, more comfortable, and genuinely enjoyable through better communication, positioning, and environmental setup. Learn why water is not lubrication, which approaches work best for real couples, and how to turn shower intimacy into a playful, low-pressure way to reconnect. Great intimacy is not about perfection. It is about adapting, relaxing, and learning what works for your marriage.
Adultery Without an Affair? The Sin of Mental Adultery
What does it really mean to commit adultery in the heart? This article offers deeper Catholic clarity on mental adultery, explaining when lustful thoughts or sexual fantasies become sinful and how spouses can better understand the call to purity, fidelity, and marital love.
One Faith, One Flesh: The Holy Fathers of Nicaea and Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage
This Sunday, Byzantine Catholics commemorate the Holy Fathers of the First Ecumenical Council of Nicaea, who defended the truth of the faith in order to preserve authentic Christian unity. Their witness reminds us that deep communion requires shared truth, both within the Church and within marriage. While couples of different beliefs can build strong marriages through shared values and mutual love, the fullest spiritual intimacy becomes possible when husband and wife fully share the Catholic faith, pray together, and pursue holiness side by side. As the Church prepares for Pentecost, couples are invited to seek greater unity in their homes through shared prayer, worship, and openness to the Holy Spirit.
Why “She Comes First” Can Transform Your Marriage
Many couples unknowingly structure intimacy around the husband’s arousal timeline, leaving wives frustrated, disconnected, or unsatisfied. In this article, we explore Dr. Ian Kerner’s “She Comes First” framework and explain why prioritizing a wife’s pleasure and orgasm can strengthen emotional intimacy, marital satisfaction, and sexual confidence for both spouses. We also discuss the importance of clitoral stimulation, practical techniques couples can try, and how tools like vulvar vibration therapy and medical-grade vibrators may help couples struggling with orgasm difficulties. Most importantly, we frame this approach not merely as a technique, but as a meaningful expression of love, attentiveness, and mutual self-gift within Catholic marriage.
Can Intimacy Be Restored After Infidelity? A Catholic Path Forward
Infidelity can feel like the end of a marriage, whether it involves pornography, emotional attachment, or a physical affair. Many couples find themselves stuck in cycles of blame, shame, and distance, unsure if true intimacy is even possible again. The answer is yes, but only if both spouses are willing to confront hard truths. If you are willing to move beyond the pain and do the work, restoration is possible.
A Thank You Letter to Our Supporters
Read this thank you letter from the Apostolate for Marital Intimacy as we express our gratitude to supporters helping expand faithful Catholic resources on marriage, intimacy, and morality. Discover how your support is helping strengthen our mission, expand outreach, and provide trusted Catholic guidance to more individuals and couples.
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Explore all our articles on sexual morality in marriage in one convenient place. Find faithful Catholic guidance, thoughtful reflections, and answers to important moral questions on marriage and intimacy.
Are You Growing in Virtue Together, or Just Spending Time Together?
Spending time together does not automatically mean a relationship is growing. Healthy relationships should help both people develop in virtue, becoming more patient, honest, and self-giving over time. Without intentional focus, couples can settle into comfort without real growth. This article encourages both dating and married couples to reflect on whether their relationship is forming them into better people.
Ask Any Catholic Sexual Morality Questions You Have in the Comments!
An open invitation for our readers to ask any questions they may have about Catholic sexual ethics or marital chastity