For Faithful & Fulfilling Romance

As part of our ongoing release of excerpts from renowned Catholic moral theologians, we turn here to Fr. John J. Lynch, S.J., and his treatment of the morality of amplexus reservatus (or, incomplete sexual intercourse where orgasm is deliberately withheld from both parties) within marriage. Drawing on traditional principles governing incomplete conjugal acts, Lynch explains why many respected theologians regarded the practice as morally licit under certain conditions. The full compendium of these classical moral theology texts is available to our Patreon members.

Should sex be scheduled, spontaneous, or should married couples have a mix of both? There is nothing wrong with spontaneous moments of intimacy, but in this article, Theo McManigal argues for the value of scheduling sex.

Catholic marriage calls spouses to assume the best of one another rather than fall into rash judgment. The Catechism teaches us to interpret our spouse’s words and actions favorably, a simple principle that can reduce conflict, strengthen communication, and build a more loving marriage.

Catholic spouses may wonder whether pre-ejaculatory fluid during foreplay is sinful. Classical Catholic moral theologians addressed this question directly, distinguishing harmless distillation from pollution and offering clear guidance for married couples struggling with scrupulosity.

Was St. Thomas Aquinas actually opposed to oral stimulation within marriage? This article examines what St. Thomas truly taught about marital intimacy, the “natural manner of copulation,” and whether his writings can legitimately be cited to condemn oral stimulation between spouses.