Catholic Sexual Intimacy Coaching
My Credentials
James Walther, MA, ABS
Sexual Intimacy Coach & Coaching Program Director
About Me
As a professional Catholic Sex Intimacy Coach, I am passionate about guiding people to deeper intimacy in their marriages. With a foundation rooted in my education in Catholic theology, further studies in marriage and family therapy, and sexology certification, I bring a unique perspective to the realm of sex coaching. My approach is holistic, addressing all facets of intimacy—physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual—recognizing their interconnectedness in fostering fulfilling relationships. Whether clients are grappling with physical intimacy issues stemming from a lack of emotional intimacy or those rooted in physical or mental health conditions, I provide personalized guidance and support to help them navigate their journey towards deeper intimacy within the framework of Catholic moral teachings.
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BA - Double Major in Philosophy and Theology (Magna Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
MA - Theology, Dogmatic Theology (Summa Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
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Certified Catholic Life Coach from Catholic Coach Training
Member of Catholic Life Coaches (profile)
Graduate Certificate in Counseling, Systemic Couple and Family Therapy from Capella University
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Certified Sexologist from the American Board of Sexology (verify)
Currently studying sex therapy at the Sexual Health Alliance
Featured Coaching Programs
While I work with couples and individuals across a wide range of sexual intimacy concerns, three issues appear again and again in my practice. Over time, the depth and consistency of this work led me to develop structured programs that provide clarity, direction, and measurable progress for couples facing these specific challenges.
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Helping women understand, trust, and work with their bodies in intimacy
This coaching program is designed for women who struggle with arousal, orgasm, or sexual responsiveness and who feel confused, frustrated, or discouraged by their experiences. Many women were never taught how female sexual response actually works, and others have absorbed unhelpful messages that disconnect desire from safety, pleasure, and confidence.
This program provides clear, respectful education on female sexual physiology and response, combined with practical, structured coaching that helps women identify what supports arousal and orgasm in their own bodies. Rather than chasing outcomes or measuring success by performance, the focus is on understanding patterns, reducing pressure, and developing skills that support responsive desire and sexual enjoyment.
This program is especially helpful for women who have never experienced orgasm, who experience it inconsistently, or who feel “stuck” despite strong emotional connection and effort. When appropriate, husbands are included to support shared understanding and collaborative growth in marital intimacy.
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Coaching support for women navigating the sexual impact of past trauma
This program supports women whose sexual experiences are shaped by past trauma, including sexual assault, abuse, female circumcision or genital mutilation, or invasive gynecological procedures. Many women carry these experiences quietly, often without language for how deeply they affect arousal, desire, bodily trust, or the ability to feel safe during sex.
This coaching program provides a structured, gentle path toward greater bodily awareness, agency, and confidence in intimacy. It is designed for women who want to understand their sexual responses, reduce fear or shutdown, and reclaim a sense of ownership over their sexual experiences within marriage.
For women who need trauma therapy, appropriate referrals are discussed. Coaching and therapy can also be used alongside one another when appropriate.
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Low Libido Support (LLS) is a structured coaching program for married couples experiencing low sexual desire or ongoing desire mismatch. The lower-desire spouse may be the husband or the wife.
This program is designed for couples who want to address sexual desire directly and efficiently, without open-ended couples therapy or medical treatment. LLS focuses on reducing sexual pressure, understanding how desire actually works, and rebuilding sustainable intimacy habits through guided practice.
Couples who enroll in LLS begin with a clear plan and move quickly into action. The program follows a defined track over nine sessions, combining targeted education, structured intimacy exercises, and practical coaching to help desire become more responsive and less stressful over time.
LLS is appropriate for couples who are motivated to engage, practice between sessions, and work toward greater sexual satisfaction within a focused, short-term framework. Program fit is always confirmed during the discovery and intake process to ensure this track is the right approach for each couple.
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A structured, relational approach for men and couples navigating erectile difficulties
This program is designed for men who are experiencing erectile difficulties and for couples who feel stuck in cycles of anxiety, avoidance, frustration, or shame around sex. Rather than chasing performance or quick fixes, this coaching program focuses on reducing pressure, rebuilding sexual confidence, and restoring a sense of safety and connection in intimacy.
The program uses a step-by-step structure to help couples move from anxiety-driven encounters toward relaxed, responsive, and mutually satisfying sexual experiences. It is especially well-suited for men who have tried medical solutions, self-help strategies, or prayer alone and still feel stuck.
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For couples facing pornography, masturbation, or sexual boundary struggles in marriage
This program is designed for couples who have already tried accountability software, spiritual disciplines, or willpower-based approaches and are still struggling. It addresses pornography and masturbation not as isolated behaviors, but as relational patterns that affect trust, emotional safety, and sexual intimacy within marriage.
Rather than relying on reward-punishment dynamics or sexual withholding, this program focuses on restoring honesty, vulnerability, and shared responsibility. Couples are guided through a structured process that helps them rebuild trust, address avoidance and resentment, and integrate sexual desire into a healthier marital dynamic.
This program is not a first step. It is for couples who are ready to do deeper relational work when everything else has failed.
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Skill, depth, and discerned growth for sexually established couples
This advanced coaching program is designed for married couples who already share a strong, active, and satisfying sexual relationship, but who feel that their sex life has become routine, predictable, or stagnant over time. These couples are not seeking repair or crisis support. They are seeking intentional growth, deeper skill, and renewed vitality within an already healthy marriage.
ASPM provides structured, high-level education and coaching focused on advanced sexual skill development, arousal dynamics, and carefully discerned novelty. Couples are guided to better understand their own bodies, patterns of desire and pleasure, and the relational conditions that support deeper erotic connection. The emphasis is not on escalation or performance, but on mastery, attunement, and integration.
This program is especially well suited for couples who are comfortable with their sexuality, communicate openly, and want to expand their sexual repertoire without compromising trust, dignity, or moral boundaries. All exploration remains exclusive to the marital relationship and is guided by clear relational and ethical guardrails. ASPM is a long-term, high-touch program for couples who have the time, stability, and resources to invest intentionally in the ongoing formation of their marital sex life.
When was the last time you and your spouse had great sex?
When was the last time you and your spouse were both able to climax?
When was the last time you felt deeply connected to your spouse?
If your answer to any of the above questions is something like “Never,” “It's been so long I can't remember,” or “That was months/years ago,” and you are ready to change that, then sex coaching may be right for you.
It's time to stop settling for mediocre or bad sex.
It's time to stop going through the motions of being married.
It's time to get on with your happily ever after.
The Essential Parts of Marital Intimacy
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary spiritual beliefs, values, and practices.
Beliefs - Shared profession of faith
Values - Shared understanding of morality/ right and wrong
Practices - Shared/compatible worship, prayers, rites, and devotions
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary goals, interests, and intelligence.
Goals - Shared/compatible long and short-term goals, both for self and family
Interests - Shared/compatible interests, hobbies, and projects
Intelligence - Comparable intelligence, such that each spouse mentally stimulates the other.
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on trust, communication, empathy, and vulnerability.
Trust - True intimacy is only possible with deep trust.
Communication - Freely sharing thoughts and feelings and attentive reception.
Empathy - Bearing each other’s sufferings personally with compassion and tenderness.
Vulnerability - Laying bear your wounds and insecurities to your spouse.
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on mutual attraction, affection, and sexual connection.
Mutual attraction - A spouse who is repulsed by their spouse will not have deep physical intimacy with them.
Affection - this mutual attraction and love expresses itself in frequent sexual and non-sexual touches, kisses, looks, words, etc.
Sexual connection - Both spouses feel that their needs are met and that sex draws them closer together.
Do We Really Need This?
That’s a great question! The difference between a want and a need often comes down to whether you're willing to accept the status quo. You might not need coaching in the sense that your marriage is on the brink—but ask yourself, are you truly satisfied with where things are now? Small struggles in intimacy don’t stay small. Over time, misunderstandings grow, distance widens, sexual frustration festers, and what could have been a source of joy turns into a source of frustration.
The real question is: Are you okay living the rest of your marriage exactly as it is today?
If the answer is no, then why wait? Investing in your intimacy now means investing in a stronger, more connected, and more fulfilling future together. Coaching isn’t about fixing what’s broken—it’s about making the good even better and ensuring your marriage thrives in every way.
Testimonials
“James is an understanding, non judgmental, and motivating coach in every way. He offers many ideas to find solutions and helps you work through whatever you want to accomplish.”
“We went from just coexisting to meeting each other again, and now we’re living with a renewed sense of purpose. I used to see sex as an obligation that I had to fulfill, but now it’s something that I look forward to and enjoy a lot - just like when we were newly married and without children lol.”
“My wife and I tried so hard timing a child that sex became a chore. When we were successful, her body changed, and the act became uncomfortable. We heard that sex was good while pregnant for the body and relationship and we needed advice. Many of the online resources were in opposition to our faith and we are so glad we found Catholic Intimacy. We immediately related to James as he was of our faith, a former teacher, and soon to have children himself. Building a sexual vocabulary with him has helped my wife and I into different positions to enjoy sex again through pregnancy and into postpartum. We are so glad we did the block package because we realized that sex can be a reflection of how our relationship is and he has continued to help us grow closer together outside of the bedroom.”