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What to Do When Sex Feels Like a Chore in Marriage
If sex in your marriage feels like a chore, something is off, and it’s not something you have to accept. In this article, we break down why this happens and how to start changing it right away. You’ll learn why your pleasure, including orgasm, is essential to a healthy sex life and what practical steps you can take to rebuild enjoyment and connection. If you’re tired of going through the motions, this is where things start to change.
Why “She Comes First” Can Transform Your Marriage
Many couples unknowingly structure intimacy around the husband’s arousal timeline, leaving wives frustrated, disconnected, or unsatisfied. In this article, we explore Dr. Ian Kerner’s “She Comes First” framework and explain why prioritizing a wife’s pleasure and orgasm can strengthen emotional intimacy, marital satisfaction, and sexual confidence for both spouses. We also discuss the importance of clitoral stimulation, practical techniques couples can try, and how tools like vulvar vibration therapy and medical-grade vibrators may help couples struggling with orgasm difficulties. Most importantly, we frame this approach not merely as a technique, but as a meaningful expression of love, attentiveness, and mutual self-gift within Catholic marriage.
Can Wives Orgasm Outside of Sex? Defending the Church’s Teaching
If the female orgasm is not procreative, why can’t it take place outside of sex along with other incomplete sexual acts? This article offers a robust explanation for why the Church’s teaches against this.
The Morality of Multiple Orgasms During Sex For Both Men and Women
In this article, we discuss the morality of either the husband or wife experiencing multiple orgasms in a single session of conjugal intercourse.
When Orgasm Feels Elusive: A Structured, Relational Introduction to Women’s Sexual Response & Orgasm Coaching
Many married women quietly struggle with orgasm, even when desire, love, and effort are present. This article introduces Female Orgasm Training (FOT), a structured, non-clinical coaching program that treats orgasm as a learnable bodily skill rather than a moral or relational failure. It offers a clear, pressure-reducing path forward for women and couples seeking greater confidence and responsiveness in marital intimacy.
Polyorgasmy: How Many Orgasms Are Enough?
Despite the Hollywood buzz about women having multiple orgasms during the same sexual encounter and the growing body of research on the subject, much about the phenomenon is still unknown. Research however indicates that there are about as many women (~14%) who can orgasm multiple times as there are women who never orgasm. Now this is important because of how polyorgasmic (able to have multiple orgasms) women reach sexual satisfaction.
Faking It or How to Never Orgasm
Research indicates that close to 70% of women have faked orgasms. This can have a variety of damaging effects on relationships.
Hard Truths for Men About Women's Experience of Sex
All the men who have come to men for coaching have done so for the same reason: there is something wrong with their sex life. Almost universally, they felt they were failing to meet their wife’s needs. Some already had an idea of what was the cause and were right, some were pretty far off base. But they knew that something was wrong. If you are in this boat, I empathize with you and I pray that I or someone else helps you and your wife. There are some things you should know.
How Important is a Wife's Sexual Satisfaction?
The response should be obvious, but based on the statements of some online personalities, I think that it bears discussing.
Catholic Teaching on the Female Orgasm
Despite mankind’s advances in medicine and research, the female orgasm remains quite a mystery both academically and practically. Some consider them as a pleasant, although unnecessary, side effect of sex, ignoring their importance in female sexual satisfaction and overall marital happiness (Dienberg et al., 2023). So what does the Church say about women’s orgasms?