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Intimacy When Your Wife Has Borderline Personality Disorder
A diagnosis of borderline personality disorder can bring both clarity and new challenges to a marriage, especially in the area of intimacy. Emotional intensity, fear of abandonment, and push–pull dynamics can make closeness feel unstable or confusing. This article helps couples understand these patterns and offers a grounded framework built on safety, stability, and structure. With the right approach and support, healthy and meaningful intimacy is still possible.
Husbands: Stop Pretending Your Sex Life Is Fine
Most husbands know when something is off in their sex life, but choose to ignore it. This article challenges men to stop settling for a lukewarm marriage and take responsibility for the state of their intimacy. If your wife is disengaged or avoiding sex, that’s not something to dismiss, it’s something to lead through. You are called not just to be present in your marriage, but to actively pursue and love your wife well, including in the bedroom. If you’re ready to stop pretending and start leading, this is your wake-up call.
When Anxiety Is Impacting Intimacy in Your Marriage
When anxiety is present in a marriage, intimacy often becomes one more source of pressure rather than a place of connection. Many couples fall into patterns of avoidance or tense, unfulfilling experiences that only reinforce the problem over time. This article breaks down how clinical anxiety affects sexual intimacy and offers clear, practical steps to begin changing that dynamic. You will learn how to reduce pressure, rebuild safety, and reintroduce intimacy in a way that actually works. If anxiety has been shaping your marriage, there is a path forward.
Is It Time to Divorce Your Wife? Read This First
Thinking about divorce? Before you make a decision that will impact your children, your finances, and your vocation, you need to understand the full cost. Divorce is not the clean escape it’s often presented to be, and it does not solve the deeper patterns that led you here. This article challenges husbands to take responsibility, lead with intention, and fight for their marriage before walking away. For Catholic men, it also addresses the reality that civil divorce does not end a valid sacramental marriage. Don’t make a permanent decision without doing the work first.
A Husband’s Crash Course in Natural Family Planning (NFP)
Natural Family Planning can feel overwhelming for many husbands, especially if it only briefly came up during marriage prep. This crash course breaks down the basics, helping you understand your wife’s cycle, the main NFP methods, and what it actually means for your marriage. It also addresses the real challenges couples face, especially when timing and desire do not align. Most importantly, it invites you to step in, communicate, and lead well in this area of your relationship. If you want to go deeper, there are resources and support available to help you both navigate NFP with confidence.
Low Libido Support (LLS): A Structured Coaching Program for Couples
Low libido is a common source of tension in marriage, but it is rarely just a lack of interest. Low Libido Support (LLS) is a structured coaching program that helps couples reduce sexual pressure, understand how desire works, and rebuild sustainable intimacy through guided practice.
A Different Approach to Erectile Dysfunction: Why Less Pressure Often Leads to Better Results
Erectile difficulties are often sustained by pressure, anxiety, and self-monitoring rather than physical inability. This article explains a structured, coaching-based approach that helps couples remove performance pressure and restore responsiveness through a clear, time-limited process. It also outlines a six-session, $1,500 coaching package designed specifically for couples whose primary concern is erectile difficulties.
Considering an Exodus 90 Group This January?
We are gauging interest in hosting a free Exodus 90 group for men and, if there is sufficient interest and a female host, a free Magnify 90 group for women, both beginning January 5, 2026. Each group requires a minimum of five committed participants by Friday, January 2 to move forward. If you are interested, please complete the interest form to help us determine whether these groups will run.
Why Does My Wife Avoid Sex?: A Catholic Husband’s Guide to Understanding, Compassion, and Growth
For many Catholic husbands, it can be confusing and painful when their wife seems to avoid sexual intimacy. You may feel rejected, unwanted, or even tempted to withdraw in frustration. But before assuming the worst, it’s worth stepping back and asking a more loving question: What’s going on in her heart and body that I may not fully understand?
The Marital Act as a Human Act
This lesson introduces moral theology in the context of marital intimacy, exploring St. Thomas Aquinas' distinction between human acts and acts of man. It covers the eight stages of a human act, the three moral elements (object, intention, and circumstances), and how ignorance and fear affect moral responsibility. Learners will gain a theological framework for ensuring intimacy aligns with God’s plan, fostering virtue, love, and unity in marriage.
Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
Sexual performance anxiety is a common but often misunderstood issue that affects both men and women. It can emerge at any age, regardless of relationship length or past sexual experience. Even couples who have enjoyed a satisfying sexual life for years may suddenly find themselves struggling with feelings of pressure, self-doubt, or fear related to intimacy.
Should I Give Up Sex For Lent?
When I hear the question “Should I give up sex for Lent?” my immediate response is, “Probably not.” Lent is a season for deep prayer and reflection, but when it comes to marriage, decisions about intimacy should always be made together and with an understanding of the consequences.
Is This a Sex Toy or a Sex Tool?
Sexual devices often carry a stigma as mere “toys” designed solely for pleasure. However, a growing body of expert opinion is reframing the conversation—suggesting that many of these products function more as essential “tools” for overcoming sexual challenges rather than indulgent extras. For example, Dr. Lauren Streicher has introduced the concept of “vibrator therapy” for women who struggle to reach orgasm, emphasizing that a vibrator is not just about intensifying pleasure but about making orgasm possible.
Understanding and Addressing Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) refers to the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. While occasional difficulty is normal and often tied to stress or fatigue, persistent issues may signal underlying physical, emotional, or relational concerns. For married couples, ED can affect not only physical intimacy but also emotional closeness and the overall harmony of the marital relationship. Recognizing and addressing ED in a compassionate, faith-centered way is key to restoring intimacy and strengthening the unity between spouses.
Navigating Current Trends in Male Fertility: Protect Your Health, Secure Your Legacy
Guest Post by Dr. Amanda Ramirez, DPT
Catholic Doctor of Physical Therapy
Any man grounded in his masculinity and committed to creating a meaningful legacy benefits from a well-rounded perspective on his fertility—one that highlights a continuum of choices, encourages informed decision-making, and prioritizes natural, minimally invasive methods first. This approach to reproductive health embodies the core principles of Restorative Reproductive Medicine.
Understanding and Overcoming Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a sensitive but common issue that affects many marriages. For Catholic couples, addressing this challenge within the framework of faith can deepen intimacy and strengthen their spiritual connection. By combining medical knowledge with faith-based resources, couples can overcome PE in ways that honor their relationship and align with Catholic teachings.
Transform Your Life with Exodus 90: Join Our 2025 Journey!
Are you ready to embrace a challenge that will transform your life? Exodus 90 is a 90-day spiritual exercise designed to help men grow closer to God, cultivate discipline, and foster meaningful connections with others. Rooted in Catholic tradition, this powerful journey begins January 20 and concludes on Easter Sunday, April 20. This year, I’m inviting 10 men to join me in this transformative experience through a supportive group hosted via Zoom.
Hard Truths for Men About Women's Experience of Sex
All the men who have come to men for coaching have done so for the same reason: there is something wrong with their sex life. Almost universally, they felt they were failing to meet their wife’s needs. Some already had an idea of what was the cause and were right, some were pretty far off base. But they knew that something was wrong. If you are in this boat, I empathize with you and I pray that I or someone else helps you and your wife. There are some things you should know.
The Art of the Thrust
Gentlemen, here is your time to shine. After you have successfully wooed your bride into bed (shower, kitchen, backseat, etc.) and completed the preliminaries, it is time to get to the act proper. This is the time that distinguishes the boys from the men. It is time to practice the art of the thrust.
Buy the Stinking Roses
How quickly can we burn through $7? Coffee, soda, snacks, beer, etc. many of us might spend $7 on our way to or from work without hardly thinking about it. Now if it’s a choice between feeding your kids and buying roses, then I’m not saying to neglect your kids. But if you have some discretionary funds, treat your spouse to something special every now and then. When you stop for that coffee, skip the snacks and buy a rose.