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When Everything Else Has Failed: A Structured, Relational Approach to Overcoming Pornography and Masturbation Struggles in Marriage
When pornography and masturbation struggles persist despite sincere effort, the issue is often deeper than a single behavior. This article introduces a structured, long-term coaching approach designed for married couples who have tried other methods without lasting success, focusing on relational growth, restored intimacy, and realistic change over time. This is not a quick fix or an accountability-only model, but a demanding and hopeful path forward for couples who want to rebuild their marriage together.
A Traditional Catholic Moral Theologian’s Pastoral Advice on Avoiding Sin During Marital Foreplay
Monsignor Antonio Lanza’s teaching reassures couples that traditional Catholic moral theology allows affectionate and even moderately sexual expressions in marriage when they do not involve intentional orgasm outside intercourse. He explains that tender acts pose little moral risk, that more stimulating acts can be used with proportionate reasons or when spouses intend to complete the marital act, and that only actions which directly initiate intercourse require clear intent to consummate it. His framework shows that married love naturally includes varied expressions of closeness, and that moral discernment rests on intention and consent rather than fear.
Be One of the 99 to Join Me
I made the first donation to this campaign myself. Now we need ninety-nine more people to join me. Our goal is simple. We want 100 Catholics to step forward with a $10 monthly gift or a one-time donation of any amount by the end of Giving Tuesday 2025 on December 2.
Can Catholic Spouses Practice “Karezza” Method of Sexual Intercourse?
Is amplexus reservatus (the “karezza method”) moral for Catholic couples? This article explores Catholic theology, magisterial teaching, and moralist debates on whether deliberately stopping short of orgasm in the marital act is a sin or permissible form of intimacy.
Defining Intimacy: Aquinas, Psychology, and the Fourfold Intimacy Model
Intimacy is often reduced to sex or feelings, but marriage demands something deeper. Drawing on Aristotle, Aquinas, and modern psychology, James Walther explains the Fourfold Intimacy Model — spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and physical — showing how true intimacy is an interpersonal state of secure vulnerability that engages the whole person.
Oral Foreplay in Catholic Marriage: A Practical and Respectful Guide
Oral foreplay, when practiced within marriage as preparation for intercourse, can deepen emotional connection and enhance mutual pleasure while remaining faithful to Catholic teaching. This article offers practical tips, addresses common challenges such as discomfort or scrupulosity, and recommends supportive tools.
How to Talk with Your Spouse About Sex: A Catholic Approach to Honest Conversations
Talking about sex with your spouse doesn’t have to be uncomfortable—it can actually draw you closer. This article offers practical tips for starting honest, respectful conversations about intimacy in Catholic marriage. It also introduces our updated Yes, No, Maybe guide to help couples explore their desires and boundaries with clarity and confidence.
Advice for a Reader on Contraception
A Catholic husband shares the struggle of embracing the Church’s teaching on contraception while his wife does not share the same conviction. After years of using contraception, he chose to follow Catholic teaching without first discussing it with her, leading to hurt and strain in their intimacy. This exchange explores the need for open communication, prayer, and patient love while seeking unity in faith and marriage.
Guiding Your Teen with Confidence: Using Catholic Intimacy Materials with Teens and Young Adults
When a Catholic mom asked whether our Sex Ed for Married Catholics (SEMC) course could be shared with her teen, we realized that other parents may be asking the same question. This article offers Catholic parents clear guidance on when and how to use our materials with teens and young adults. We discuss recommended ages, suggested approaches for using the content, necessary cautions, and alternative resources better suited for younger audiences.
The Marital Act as a Human Act
This lesson introduces moral theology in the context of marital intimacy, exploring St. Thomas Aquinas' distinction between human acts and acts of man. It covers the eight stages of a human act, the three moral elements (object, intention, and circumstances), and how ignorance and fear affect moral responsibility. Learners will gain a theological framework for ensuring intimacy aligns with God’s plan, fostering virtue, love, and unity in marriage.
Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
Sexual performance anxiety is a common but often misunderstood issue that affects both men and women. It can emerge at any age, regardless of relationship length or past sexual experience. Even couples who have enjoyed a satisfying sexual life for years may suddenly find themselves struggling with feelings of pressure, self-doubt, or fear related to intimacy.
Should I Give Up Sex For Lent?
When I hear the question “Should I give up sex for Lent?” my immediate response is, “Probably not.” Lent is a season for deep prayer and reflection, but when it comes to marriage, decisions about intimacy should always be made together and with an understanding of the consequences.
Is This a Sex Toy or a Sex Tool?
Sexual devices often carry a stigma as mere “toys” designed solely for pleasure. However, a growing body of expert opinion is reframing the conversation—suggesting that many of these products function more as essential “tools” for overcoming sexual challenges rather than indulgent extras. For example, Dr. Lauren Streicher has introduced the concept of “vibrator therapy” for women who struggle to reach orgasm, emphasizing that a vibrator is not just about intensifying pleasure but about making orgasm possible.
Stress-Free Saint Valentine’s Day: Rekindling Marital Intimacy Without the Pressure
Valentine’s Day often conjures images of red roses, heart-shaped chocolates, and candlelit dinners. But beneath the surface of this hyper-commercialized celebration lies the story of Saint Valentine, a martyr whose life was marked by sacrifice and love. As modern society pushes us to equate love with extravagant gifts and grand gestures, many couples find themselves burdened by unrealistic expectations that can strain rather than strengthen their marriages.
The Harmful Relational Effects of Withholding Sex in Marriage
In coaching, it’s not uncommon to hear a spouse (often the wife) say, “I won’t be intimate until we emotionally connect,” or “I don’t feel close enough for sex.” While emotional connection is crucial in marriage, using sex as leverage can be profoundly damaging. This article explores the positive role of marital intimacy, the risks of withholding it, and how couples can break harmful patterns to restore their relationship within Catholic values.
Faith and Love: Strengthening Catholic Marriages in Military Life
The Catholic Military Ordinariate of Australia has officially recognized Catholic Intimacy as a valuable resource, marking a significant step in our shared mission to support Catholic couples in fostering faith-centered marriages—particularly within the unique challenges of military life.
Screaming at Trees Counseling
Now one tool that Megan likes is having her clients scream at trees. Yes, you read that right. They are supposed to roll down their windows on a back country road and scream at the trees. Of course, there is more to it than just that, but you would have to talk to her about the details of the exercise. This may sound a bit far-fetched, but for trauma clients, it can be incredibly cathartic and a useful exercise in learning when and how to express their emotions. So, she has named her practice Screaming At Trees Counseling (SATCo).
Reignite Your Marriage: Make This Year the Start of a Faithful, Fulfilling Sex Life
Six weeks later, he gave his wife her first orgasm in over six years. Two months later the wife told me during a session that their children had noticed the transformation, one of them telling his mother that she seemed to like dad.
Catholic Intimacy’s 2024 Year-in-Review
As we close the chapter on 2024, we are filled with gratitude for the growth, challenges, and countless blessings this year has brought. Catholic Intimacy continues to be a space for married couples to grow closer to each other and God, building healthy, holy, and intimate relationships rooted in faith. This year has been one of expansion, resilience, and exciting steps forward.
Porn and How to Overcome It
Pornography has become a pervasive issue in today’s society, affecting both men and women across all walks of life. While many may view pornography as harmless or even normal, its impact on marriage and intimacy can be deeply damaging. From the perspective of Catholic teaching, pornography undermines the dignity of the human person and distorts God’s plan for sexuality. As the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) states, “Pornography… offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other” (CCC 2354). For married couples, addressing this issue is critical for preserving trust, intimacy, and the sacramental bond.